For expectant mothers experiencing high-risk pregnancies, hospital bed rest may sometimes become necessary. Almost everything will fall to the other parent – paying bills, mortgage, rent, childcare to name but a few.
If the expectant couple is heterosexual, it is very important for well-meaning close female friends to avoid the impulse to take over for one another in childcare crises. Men may find this impulse kind, but also frustrating. It is appropriate and respectful to confer with both parents because neither one of them is having an easy time. This post is written with the assumption that the mother in question has an older child or children at home. These suggestions reflect conversations our editorial staff has had with families in this uniquely stressful and logistically complicated situation.
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If the parents are heterosexual, men may sometimes have more trouble asking for help and support. Men in his circle should be encouraged to swing by with a cup of coffee of a six-pack of beer – just to say hello. Oftentimes, we have heard men speak of feeling powerless in pregnancy, labor, and delivery. These feelings may be magnified when his partner is separated from the family on hospital bed rest.
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